Here's how you can address your needs and concerns with your partner without sparking conflict.

A pattern interrupt is helpful. I once approached this kind of convo and shared that my goal was to prove myself wrong, like a scientist. We both took that approach and it helped ease the suspicious nature these kinds of meetings create. It's good to set a time to talk outside of business, but hoping you can get a person fresh and not distracted is a tough ask these days of mobile phone immersion. To give the convo attention, work on getting each other to drop the antagonism. Focus on what brought you together in the beginning, your origin story. Why was this partnership started, and what's shifted? Listen and invite contrary opinions in the spirit of building rapport. Don't just listen and take each opinion as a chance to make your own.

To address your needs and concerns with a partner while minimizing conflict, approach the conversation with clarity and empathy. Start by clearly articulating your concerns using "I" statements, which helps express your feelings without sounding accusatory. Actively listen to your partner's perspective to understand their viewpoint and find common ground. Frame the discussion around collaborative problem-solving rather than assigning blame. Choose a neutral and private setting to foster an open dialogue, and remain open to compromise. By focusing on mutual goals and maintaining professionalism, you can effectively address issues and work towards a constructive resolution.

Hopefully you've done some work on your emotions beforehand, because if you haven't this will fall apart quickly. Breathing is key, as well as facial expressions, body language, and for this to work, you actually have to be calm. No fake it till you make it calm. Recognize that the emotions are all about you and rarely have anything to do with the disagreement. And know that from the person talking to you. Let the emotions pass through and don't encourage the other's anger. I did this with a partner who was so wrapped up in anger - from personal life events as much as business - he was taking it out on his partners. While I couldn't have him face it, understanding this helped me navigate his fluctuating emotional state with a empathy.