Fixes #3889

Changes proposed in this pull request:

• I was going to update update all relevant events so that the actor property is always named actor but I figured that would be too breaking? honestly not sure, but at least this fixes the deprecation warning.

Necessity

• Has the problem that is being solved here been clearly explained?
• If applicable, have various options for solving this problem been considered?
• For core PRs, does this need to be in core, or could it be in an extension?
• Are we willing to maintain this for years / potentially forever?

Confirmed

• Frontend changes: tested on a local Flarum installation.
• Backend changes: tests are green (run composer test).
• Core developer confirmed locally this works as intended.
• Tests have been added, or are not appropriate here.